Monday, June 13, 2011

Get off the FLIPPIN Fence

How did you know?  She asked.  The noise level was escalating with the arrival of each guest.  You know the buzz of the room when women gather to celebrate the joining of two lovebirds, or the expected offspring of said lovebirds.  There is just something in the air at these events.  Everyone leaves their troubles at the door.  For a few hours, we will just chat, reminisce and drink punch.  Yes, I was at a bridal shower to celebrate my cousins upcoming nuptials.  When she was 5, she stood up in my first wedding.  Yes, I said first.  Not many know that I had a brief lapse of judgement and got married to the "one, I was with".  You know what I mean.  Don't Judge.  Some of you have done it too.  Thank GOD I woke up, before children.

Anyways, I will get back to my point.  I just can't believe that she is all grown up and getting ready to begin her life with the love of her life.  It is very sweet.  You can tell when it is real between a couple. They reminded me of me and my hubby.  We looked like that.  All bright eyed and bushy tailed.  I guess, when I looked at them, I couldn't help but think about, how we all go into marriage and a life with that special hunnybunch hoping for everything to be perfect.  I did.  We had no idea what lie ahead and how much we would grow as human beings.  For better, for worse, we stuck together.  I won't lie, sometimes, I wanted to poke his eyes out.  (heehee)  I know that I made him nutz as well.  I can be a bit of a control freak.  We were going to have it all.   Kids, house, vacations and love.  We got the house....bliss.  We had vacations....more bliss.  Thank goodness we had the love, cuz the kid part was gonna be rough.  On our second date, we talk to one another about how we could see ourselves adopting....someday.  You know.....after we have our own.  Our own.  That sounds so odd to me now.  I knew that I had the heart to adopt, but I didn't know the magnitude and depth that my heart could go.   I didn't know that.  Had I not adopted these children, I would not have known how much adopted children are "our own".  Except for their DNA, everything about them is JERRY and AMY.  We are their strength.  We are their security.  We are everything to them that we would have been to biological children.

So to answer the question that was posed to me at this shower.  How did you get there, you know, to the point where you dove in and weren't afraid that you could be headed for heartache.

Faith.  Faith in God.  Faith in Jerry and I.  Faith.  If I had stayed afraid of the unknown, I would have never experienced the bond between mother and child.  We would have robbed a child who was arriving into this world,  of what we had to offer him.  Parents who were ready to embrace his arrival and nurture him through life.

Adoption is a blessing for so many children.  Since I started blogging, unfortunately, I have received a real education as an adoptive parent. Not all children feel blessed in adoption.  We all know someone who should have never been a parent, right?   Those same people adopt too.  Selfishly.    So....I want to reach out to people who have the heart for adoption.  If you are sitting on the fence.  Get off.  There are children who need you.  Don't wait any longer.  Get approved and move forward.  You won't regret it.  Nothing worth while is easy.  These children are worth it.  Get of the flippin fence and have faith!


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