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I do not want to sound like a broken record, but......I am again going to reach out to you who are trying to decide on whether to adopt....or not. What is holding you back? Is it the cost? Is it the work involved? Is it scary? No guarantee? I totally understand all of these things. All of these issues are on the minds of many who are considering adoption. You are not alone. Do you worry that you won't bond with a child that is not your own? Are you worried about being responsible for the psychological well being of a child who will have to accept being adopted? Do you worry about adopting a child not knowing the medical history of the child? All of these worries are manageable. Really.

I pose this question to you. Are you ok with never sharing your personal gifts with a child who desperately needs and deserves a mommy, daddy or family?

Maybe you are a couple who has struggled through infertility and you are beat up and giving up. Don't. Maybe you are a woman who has dreamed of being a mother her whole life and have so much to offer a child, but you haven't found Mr. Right. Its ok, you don't have to wait. Maybe God has blessed you with your own biological children, but you have more to give and can open your door to a child in need. Open it.

The need is there. If you have the heart for adoption, please begin the process of making room in your heart, in your home and in your life, for a child who is here or coming soon.

Listen, I speak from experience. After going through infertility, miscarriage, failed procedures, financial strain, deep emotional hurts, a year of researching adoption and then choosing the appropriate route for us, I can tell you that it was all worth it and I would NOT change one bit of it. It has been challenging, but so rewarding. The process of helping them understand where they came from has taught me so much. I am a better person because of them. The journey and the process has shown me so much about myself that I might not have otherwise known.

Ok, I'll get down off of my soapbox and wind this post up. I don't want to minimize anyone's fears, and I don't want to give the impression that adoption is a cakewalk. It's tough to get through everything. BUT....when you get that child home and begin to build a relationship with this little person who wants nothing from you but love.......there is nothing that compares to that experience. May GOD bless and keep you through your process.

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  1. UnknownThursday, June 23, 2011

    As an adoptee I love this post. I plan on adopting as well once I get in the right positioned to. My mom was an adoptee as well. She was adopted out of an orphanage in a very poor part of Ecuador. I pray that it will be a generational things where we all adopt. I love this message!

    Love, Muzik @iamadopted

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