Defending your Heart


Defending Your Heart
Just wanted to follow up with how my talk with Jacob went.  I didn't get into it in my last post, since my Mama Bear Instincts were in full swing.  He fully understands after our talk that his birthparents were not bad people.  I focused on the explanation that, many people in the world do not understand adoption.  I told him that through out his life he will experience many comments from people that may not sound "right" to him.  That is when I decided to explain it in terms I thought that he could relate to.

Soccer Goalie.  In goal, your job is to defend the goal.  You can catch the ball and toss or kick it back on the field.  Meaning, receive the comment and respond appropriately. In goal, you can use your body to bounce the ball  back onto the field.   Meaning, ignore the comment and walk away.  In goal, if the ball scores on you, you pick yourself up and get back in the game.  Meaning, if you are hurt by a comment, remember the source, love yourself and move on.  He really understood after that.  He is an amazing boy, and I am the luckiest mom in the world.

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  1. PatriciaSunday, May 29, 2011

    Good job Mom. Defend that kiddo with all your heart.

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